You know, dear reader, there are these times in life when you mentally, instinctively, in your heart of hearts, know that you should just surrender to all that’s going on. That there is really nothing more you can do. That it is what it is. That it might even get a little less ‘’unpleasant’’ if you just manage to accept the whole thing and let it be (cue The Beatles).
I get it. I promise. To surrender feels like giving up. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to get all passive in order to surrender to what is. Let me explain.
To surrender is to dance with life
We’re always dancing with life. And it’s not that life leads and we just follow, it’s an equal dance. Surrender doesn’t always look like throwing yourself into your dance partner’s arms, it can also look like accepting their movements and answering them with your own. Elegantly swirling, confidently jumping, gracefully acknowledging & responding – truly dancing with life.
To surrender doesn’t have to mean just letting it happen, it can also mean deciding to live it fully. Stepping into the experience and co-creating with life.
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3 exercises to help you actively(!) surrender to what is
Take a moment to feel into the situation or area of your life you’re longing for to be different and get ready for a quick visualization.
Here are 3 simple ways to actively surrender anytime you struggle with something that’s (still) not how you want it to be:
#1 With the wisdom of your body
Feel into where in your body this situation evokes a sensation, then try to locate the edges of it. Are they sharp, rugged, dull? What form and color do they have? Whenever you feel satisfied with your investigation, let the edges break like a dam and allow the sensation to fill up your entire body. Stay with it until every nook and cranny is filled with this (probably not so pleasant) sensation and see what happens. Your body is here to help you carry.
#2 With the power of your intention
Imagine this situation as a path you’re walking, a room you’re in, or a scene taking place in front of you. Who’s there? Who isn’t? What is happening and how do you feel? Then, in this visualization and in the real world, deliberately put both your feet firmly on the ground. The moment you do that, see if any words come up to reinforce your intention. Repeat until you can feel that you’ve surrendered yourself (more) to what is.
#3 With the grace of your heart
Picture your heart as a cozy room that radiates warmth and safeness. Then, shift your focus to all the brain chemistry this situation evokes. Grab the most urgent or overarching message, wrap it up, take it out of your head and place it into your heart space. You don’t have to do anything else, just let it rest in this safe container.
Hi, it’s me, Shirley!
A few years ago I decided to stop making my life any harder than it already was. And since then my life has been perfect.
Okay, that’s a lie.
But thanks to my self-compassion practice I now know how I can, time and time again, find my way back to my authentic self. And that’s what makes my life so much more easeful & joyful these days.
Let’s cultivate more self-compassion together!
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