{"id":1876,"date":"2024-04-16T10:29:24","date_gmt":"2024-04-16T09:29:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.howtolife.nl\/?p=1876"},"modified":"2026-03-13T14:06:16","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T13:06:16","slug":"terugvallen-in-oude-patronen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.moreselfcompassion.com\/en\/terugvallen-in-oude-patronen\/","title":{"rendered":"Why falling back into old patterns is actually a good thing"},"content":{"rendered":"<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-1vrftsk-31d3b71cc53bd0c4eec5bb8b1e6522b7\">\n.avia-section.av-1vrftsk-31d3b71cc53bd0c4eec5bb8b1e6522b7{\nmargin-top:-35px;\nmargin-bottom:0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_1'  class='avia-section av-1vrftsk-31d3b71cc53bd0c4eec5bb8b1e6522b7 main_color avia-section-default avia-no-border-styling  avia-builder-el-0  el_before_av_section  avia-builder-el-first  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' 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id=\"style-css-av-laa01xu3-966c58ebf8bee642fb8b6c8dc87e19c0\">\n#top .av-special-heading.av-laa01xu3-966c58ebf8bee642fb8b6c8dc87e19c0{\npadding-bottom:10px;\n}\nbody .av-special-heading.av-laa01xu3-966c58ebf8bee642fb8b6c8dc87e19c0 .av-special-heading-tag .heading-char{\nfont-size:25px;\n}\n.av-special-heading.av-laa01xu3-966c58ebf8bee642fb8b6c8dc87e19c0 .av-subheading{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='av-special-heading av-laa01xu3-966c58ebf8bee642fb8b6c8dc87e19c0 av-special-heading-h1 blockquote modern-quote modern-centered  avia-builder-el-4  el_after_av_hr  el_before_av_textblock  av-linked-heading'><h1 class='av-special-heading-tag'  itemprop=\"headline\"  >Why falling back into old patterns is actually a good thing<\/h1><div class=\"special-heading-border\"><div class=\"special-heading-inner-border\"><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-laa05cpk-03a5ff95a3c59a2cdbda2f11d31abed4\">\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 990px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-laa05cpk-03a5ff95a3c59a2cdbda2f11d31abed4 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-laa05cpk-03a5ff95a3c59a2cdbda2f11d31abed4'   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em><strong>Falling back into old patterns is inevitable when you are working on your personal or spiritual development.<\/strong> And no matter how many times you've experienced it, each time it feels like you're, once again, back to square one. In this blog post you'll find the 3 most common causes for falling back in to old patterns and you\u2019ll see that it\u2019s anything but bad news.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><strong>The relapse allows for deeper integration<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Whatever path you are currently walking in your development, it is a learning process. And learning involves trial and error. Yes, that's super clich\u00e9, but still important to reiterate. <strong>After all, you learn nothing from accidentally doing things right, you learn from making mistakes and subsequently finding new solutions.<\/strong> Falling back into old patterns actually gives you the opportunity to integrate what you're developing on a whole new level. You anchor it deeper within yourself by also learning to walk this new path in a different, more challenging context. So actually, it\u2019s not even a \u2018real\u2019 relapse, but a new challenge on the same path.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-laa06l4h-e15d77199c69b2f3496e446701c2c312\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-laa06l4h-e15d77199c69b2f3496e446701c2c312{\nheight:15px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-laa06l4h-e15d77199c69b2f3496e446701c2c312 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-6  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock'><span class='hr-inner'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-laa05tz8-86b4c62de0ae844ac25eb743b3ee9ce9'   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>\u2018Falling back into old patterns gives you the opportunity to integrate that which you are developing into a new level or area of your life. So really, it\u2019s not a relapse, it\u2019s a new challenge on the same path.\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-laa06sj5-3ebe4db42d14597d56a28649386dfcf8\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-laa06sj5-3ebe4db42d14597d56a28649386dfcf8{\nheight:25px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-laa06sj5-3ebe4db42d14597d56a28649386dfcf8 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-8  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock'><span class='hr-inner'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-1qs1x84-cdf7382ff08c46c3796a2878138d824a\">\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 990px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-1qs1x84-cdf7382ff08c46c3796a2878138d824a .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-1qs1x84-cdf7382ff08c46c3796a2878138d824a'   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h2><strong>3 common reasons for falling back into old patterns:<\/strong><\/h2>\n<h3>#1 The situation is too challenging<\/h3>\n<p>When something crosses a certain threshold of challengingness, you stop learning new things and go on autopilot. There's nothing you can do about that; you're human, so this is just something that will happen from time to time. <strong>When things get too hard, safety is all that matters for our human brains - and \u2018safety\u2019 is found by going back to the old and familiar.<\/strong> In such a challenging situation you simply don't have enough bandwidth to unfailingly keep choosing to take the new path. And that's okay.<\/p>\n<p>You can never lose what you have already learned - even if it sometimes feels that way. As soon as you have a little more breathing room again, you can just continue to walk your beautiful path right where you left off.<\/p>\n<h3>#2 Your self-worth has fallen behind in your growth process<\/h3>\n<p>When you\u2019re doing particularly great and are continuously working outside of your comfort zone, your self-image, and with that your self-worth, may fall behind, because it needs time to catch up on all that\u2019s happening. <strong>What tends to happen, when you\u2019re growing so fast, is that your self-worth is going to hold you back, because you're unconsciously looking for confirmation of it.<\/strong> And so you start (again, unconsciously) sabotaging yourself, by, for example, reintroducing those old patterns, so that your world matches your self-worth again. Remind yourself as often as possible that what you do is completely separate from who you are - whether you grow mightily or fail mightily, you are and will remain equally valuable.<\/p>\n<h3>#3 The expansion is (too) big<\/h3>\n<p><strong>Sometimes the expansion<\/strong>, the result of your development, the space you free up for yourself, <strong>is so great that your mind <\/strong><strong>starts to panic and slow you down by means of those fantastic old patterns<\/strong>. It's a very clever trick of your brain to make you think you are doing something wrong when in fact you are doing loads of stuff right. So much so, that it\u2019s the whole reason for your brain\u2019s panic attack (because: change, new, unknown, scary!). So, your \u2018relapse\u2019 may simply be a sign to take a moment to reflect on your progress and celebrate how far you\u2019ve come.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-laa07wqt-104b15cd550bdb23b07e0ffefa74d6a0\">\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 990px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-laa07wqt-104b15cd550bdb23b07e0ffefa74d6a0 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-laa07wqt-104b15cd550bdb23b07e0ffefa74d6a0'   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h2><strong>It's part of the path<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>So, this time in your life, revisiting old patterns, really just means that you are doing gloriously, and that you are a human being - a soul on earth in a body with a brain. But of course, the fact that this \u2018relapse\u2019 is a worthy part of the path does not make this experience any less hard. Whatever the reason was, the effect is always the same: your nervous system becomes unhinged. <strong>So, the best way you can support yourself right now, is to try to calm your nervous system.<\/strong> The inner security you develop as a result will allow you to soften, and that softening gives you access to your inner wisdom and strength again.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-9ibz8-37a50d4d92ca7a5e9273b4585ea737c9\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-9ibz8-37a50d4d92ca7a5e9273b4585ea737c9{\nheight:35px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-9ibz8-37a50d4d92ca7a5e9273b4585ea737c9 hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-11  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock  av-small-hide av-mini-hide'><span class='hr-inner'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-lhurw2ao-0471d3ea44b44e602db807b9d156c2c8\">\n\n@media only screen and 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itemprop=\"headline\"  >Hi, it's me, Shirley!<\/h3><div class=\"special-heading-border\"><div class=\"special-heading-inner-border\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-b6txck-5f5e33e2c9b215e13182d111ce12b2ea\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-b6txck-5f5e33e2c9b215e13182d111ce12b2ea .avia_textblock{\ncolor:#ffffff;\ntext-align:center;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 990px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-b6txck-5f5e33e2c9b215e13182d111ce12b2ea .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-b6txck-5f5e33e2c9b215e13182d111ce12b2ea'   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p>A few years ago I <strong>decided to stop making my life any harder than it already was<\/strong>. And since then my life has been perfect.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, that's a lie.<\/p>\n<p>But thanks to my self-compassion practice I now know how I can, time and time again, <strong>find my way back to my favorite self.<\/strong> And that's what <strong>makes my life so much more easeful &amp; joyful<\/strong> these days.<\/p>\n<p>With my blog posts I hope to do the same for you. <strong>Welcome!<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-9dk6as-ee59dee893b51e49507f752cfbb7418b\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-9dk6as-ee59dee893b51e49507f752cfbb7418b{\nheight:15px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-9dk6as-ee59dee893b51e49507f752cfbb7418b hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-26  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_button'><span class='hr-inner'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n<div  class='avia-button-wrap av-7be7h0-e1dc80e8d20e505d17916f6b5ff92ff7-wrap avia-button-center  avia-builder-el-27  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