{"id":1943,"date":"2023-07-09T16:10:18","date_gmt":"2023-07-09T15:10:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.howtolife.nl\/?p=1943"},"modified":"2026-03-13T14:10:59","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T13:10:59","slug":"boos-op-jezelf-zijn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.moreselfcompassion.com\/en\/boos-op-jezelf-zijn\/","title":{"rendered":"Breaking the cycle of being angry with yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-1wv330n-b9a1e41bac3733edb6ea10745d7976d6\">\n.avia-section.av-1wv330n-b9a1e41bac3733edb6ea10745d7976d6{\nmargin-top:-35px;\nmargin-bottom:0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div id='av_section_1'  class='avia-section av-1wv330n-b9a1e41bac3733edb6ea10745d7976d6 main_color avia-section-default avia-no-border-styling  avia-builder-el-0  el_before_av_section  avia-builder-el-first  avia-bg-style-scroll container_wrap fullsize'  ><div class='container av-section-cont-open' ><main  role=\"main\" 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Something in your life isn't going the way you hoped and now your mind is trying to clean house; often in the form of guilt and\/or shame. Whatever that well-meaning upper story is yelling, it all boils down to the fact that you're just not good enough the way you are right now.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>Fear not! Help is on the way. The self-compassion exercise below will help you to <strong>break the cycle of<\/strong> <strong>being angry with yourself in a gentle and grounded way.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h2><strong>Getting angry with yourself \u2013 it starts so innocently<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Something went wrong. You have (not) said or (not) done something that\u2019s in conflict with who you really are. That happens. But then your mind swings into action; as a knight on horseback in shining armor, he will make sure to bring you to safety again.<\/p>\n<p>And suddenly it's not something you've done that's not okay, no, you're not okay. Et voil\u00e0, the self-directed anger has arrived. Chances are that you\u2019ll also get angry with yourself because you are angry with yourself \u2013 and so you keep picking up \u2018swords\u2019 and stabbing yourself with them.<\/p>\n<p>And well, you and I both know that this spiral ends in a pretty deep, dark hole, where you become more and more convinced that the best thing to do is to throw yourself out with the trash.<\/p>\n<p>But nothing could be further from the truth, my dear human.<\/p>\n<p>And <strong>you are able to, kindly but firmly,<\/strong><strong> decline this invitation from your brain and choose a different path.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><strong>Step 1 \u2013 acknowledging &amp; detaching<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>The following exercise is a visualization. The most important thing to know before you proceed is this: <strong>there is no right or wrong.<\/strong> Everything &amp; anything that appears in your mind\u2019s eye is what you\u2019re meant to see at this time. Once an image comes up, commit to it fully.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-la9sqzdq-25e9785f459b9106209b412c074c3227\">\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 990px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-la9sqzdq-25e9785f459b9106209b412c074c3227 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-la9sqzdq-25e9785f459b9106209b412c074c3227'   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h3><strong>Take a deep breath and:<\/strong><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>visualize the event that made you angry with yourself in the first place and put it down in front of you;<\/li>\n<li>visualize what you\u2019re feeling right now, everything this situation evokes in you, and put it down in front of you;<\/li>\n<li>visualize every way in which you\u2019re trying to work with or against what\u2019s happening in this moment and put it down in front of you.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><em>An example of what this might look like:<\/em><\/h3>\n<p>A red alarm light, representing your feelings, is lying on the floor in front of you, along with a snapshot of the situation that started it all. Next to it, you see a numb version of yourself that symbolizes the internal reaction this has called forth. Perhaps you also picture certain words that have been floating through your mind or a representation of a body part where this experience is creating an anxious sensation.<\/p>\n<p>You can keep putting things down until you feel it\u2019s all there. Only you know everything that\u2019s going on inside you and which things deserve a place in front of you. <strong>With this visualization you acknowledge all parts of your current experience and detach it from who you are.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The next invitation is to ask yourself a few questions to tune in and start moving towards self-compassion:<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Step 2 - checking in &amp; recentering<\/strong><\/h2>\n<ol>\n<li>Can you try to show some compassion for one of the visualizations you\u2019re looking at, perhaps by letting it know that <strong>it\u2019s okay it\u2019s here,<\/strong> or even that you\u2019re sorry that this part of you has to go through this?<\/li>\n<li>Can you try to show some compassion for the part of you that is (or was) angry with yourself, perhaps by reminding yourself <strong>it (you!) meant well<\/strong> and just had very limited resources to work with?<\/li>\n<li>Finally, are you willing to try to show some compassion for the version of you in the situation that instigated all this? Are you willing to consider that you did your best, that you simply weren\u2019t able to do better at that time, and that <strong>the fact that you (maybe) made a mistake does NOT mean that you ARE a mistake<\/strong>?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Note: <strong>You don\u2019t have to succeed in showing yourself compassion for all these things.<\/strong> This is about checking in with your authentic self and trying to find an in-road to reconnect.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Being angry with yourself can (with the right tools) turn into a connective experience<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><strong>The experience of being angry with yourself is, on its own, already proof that this is not who you are.<\/strong> If it was, you wouldn\u2019t criticize yourself the way you are right now. Apparently, you acted from a place that does not align with your authentic self. <em>That\u2019s okay, it happens.<\/em> Now, the choice is up to you to stop piercing yourself with those metaphorical swords, so that you can restore the connection with your core.<\/p>\n<p><strong>No matter how often your mind starts throwing around its renditions of <\/strong><strong>being-not-good-enough, your core <\/strong><strong>remains untouched<\/strong>; your authentic self will always be quietly waiting for you until you\u2019re able to land in the here and now and come home again. Give yourself a lot of time to do this. 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class=\"special-heading-inner-border\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-bjttjb-3004b0f26def92d6ba50299baf20e603\">\n#top .av_textblock_section.av-bjttjb-3004b0f26def92d6ba50299baf20e603 .avia_textblock{\ncolor:#ffffff;\ntext-align:center;\n}\n\n@media only screen and (min-width: 990px){ \n#top .av_textblock_section.av-bjttjb-3004b0f26def92d6ba50299baf20e603 .avia_textblock{\nfont-size:16px;\n}\n}\n<\/style>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-bjttjb-3004b0f26def92d6ba50299baf20e603'   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock av_inherit_color'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p>A few years ago I <strong>decided to stop making my life any harder than it already was<\/strong>. And since then my life has been perfect.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, that's a lie.<\/p>\n<p>But thanks to my self-compassion practice I now know how I can, time and time again, <strong>find my way back to my favorite self.<\/strong> And that's what <strong>makes my life so much more easeful &amp; joyful<\/strong> these days.<\/p>\n<p>With my blog posts I hope to do the same for you. <strong>Welcome!<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-8x8wdj-d583c10c471004f1a4b0739d4dab5cbd\">\n#top .hr.hr-invisible.av-8x8wdj-d583c10c471004f1a4b0739d4dab5cbd{\nheight:15px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='hr av-8x8wdj-d583c10c471004f1a4b0739d4dab5cbd hr-invisible  avia-builder-el-24  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_button'><span class='hr-inner'><span class=\"hr-inner-style\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><br \/>\n<div  class='avia-button-wrap av-79z73r-fb0a1458395223b8ead0f78ce8042cd8-wrap avia-button-center  avia-builder-el-25  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