You know those seasons of life, when you’re just not doing so great for a prolonged period of time? Recurring stuckness, exhaustion, overwhelm – they all have been visiting and none of them seem to be planning to leave anytime soon.
Yeah, I’m pretty familiar with those. And, once or twice, I might have googled tips on getting out of a slump (and you probably have, too 😋). And those tips I encountered … Let’s just say IF I KNEW HOW TO STOP BEING IN THIS SLUMP I WOULD HAVE ALREADY DONE THAT. Thank you very much.
So today let’s look at some things that can ACTUALLY help you support yourself through a slump (of any kind).
Let’s start with an exercise
Imagine this situation as a path you’re walking, a room you’re in, or a scene taking place in front of you.
Who’s there? Who isn’t? What is happening and how do you feel?
Then, in this visualization and in the real world, deliberately put both your feet firmly on the ground. The moment you do that, see if any words come up to reinforce your intention.
Repeat those words until you can feel that you’ve surrendered yourself (more) to what is.
A personal example
I was standing in front of a very big, poorly lit room full of floating heads with giant, piercing eyes 👀 (okay, they might have had bodies too, I just didn’t see them).
And I could barely move or talk, because of the pit in my stomach that wasn’t a pit, but a huge metal bar through my whole torso.
The moment I stepped into this room, the words ‘’I am not afraid’’ came up (which was funny, because I felt incredibly afraid 😬), which I repeated until I felt a bit more grounded again.
It might feel stupid or unnecessary, but it is visualizations like these that help your mind really surrender to your intention to, in this case, accept your slump.
➡️ Reconnecting with yourself and the present moment starts here.
3 practical questions you can ask yourself to make hard days suck just a little less
(while upping the self-connection, self-support, and self-care game even more):
#1 What do I need to take with me into this day?
And I don’t mean something to help yourself feel better, I mean the thing that’s already there although you really don’t want it to be.
➡️ It helps to consciously decide to take the sadness, heaviness, or self-doubt with you – perhaps in an imaginary backpack or on your imaginary backseat; it makes you feel less helpless in the face of it, it helps you take some power back.
#2 What’s going to be the highlight of my day?
And it doesn’t have to be anything fancy (PLEASE don’t pick anything fancy – yesterday my highlight was using fresh garlic instead of powder in my dish).
➡️ Choosing a highlight helps you focus & spend time on the things that really matter to you.
#3 What would I do now, if I were at my best?
Note, you are NOT at your best right now. And that’s totally fine. But in times where everything feels like too much, this question DOES give you a direction you can start moving into.
➡️ If you know that you would take a walk if you were at your best, maybe in this moment, you open a window or go look at some plants in your garden.
Getting out of a slump starts with reconnecting with yourself
This is what leads you back to you, even in the hardest of times; the practice of self-compassion.
It’s like putting a hand on your own shoulder and telling yourself:
‘’Hey, it will be all right, and therefore, right now, it does NOT have to be all right.’’
Hi, it’s me, Shirley!
A few years ago I decided to stop making my life any harder than it already was. And since then my life has been perfect.
Okay, that’s a lie.
But thanks to my self-compassion practice I now know how I can, time and time again, find my way back to my authentic self. And that’s what makes my life so much more easeful & joyful these days.
Let’s cultivate more self-compassion together!
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