Shirley de Koster
Shirley de Koster


I'm Shirley, down-to-earth spiritual entrepreneur, dance lover with a broken back, singing-enthusiast with stage fright and always long-winded (good luck, my friend).

So, the thing that lights me up more than anything else in life is self-compassion. Mainly, supporting you, with self-compassion as a gentle and grounded tool, in finding your own way towards an authentic life lived with more ease, connection, confidence & joy.

How did I get here? Well, you name it, I dance(d) with it: chronic pain, illnesses, depression, complex PTSD, an eating disorder and – of course – being a highly sensitive person (definitely the best of all, but still difficult to navigate at times).

All those challenges and, in particular, all the ways in which I tried to ‘fix’ them, caused the connection with my essence to dissipate more and more.

”You name it, I dance(d) with it.”

Self-compassion teachings

After 10 years of struggling it finally became clear to me all that ‘fixing’ wasn’t going to make me happy. I was done with searching for the answers outside of myself and started my journey inward. Which led me to, of course, becoming a personal development junkie - and although this was definitely a gentler approach, I was still striving to be ‘better’. Whether my goal was to be more productive, more ‘whole’ or just happier in general, deep inside I continuously felt the underlying message of me not being good enough just as I am.

Until I discovered self-compassion, and, a little while later, integrated it into my daily life, thanks to my tarot practice and the teachings of Tara Brach amongst others. My self-compassion practice was the thing that finally brought me back into connection with my essence. And with my teachings, readings & blog posts I hope to support you in coming home to yourself – again and again and again.

‘Life is about coming back to yourself. Leaving is not the problem; the beauty is in the coming back – time and time again.’

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Yours in all things self-compassion,


Shirley de Koster